I've been in the wedding industry for well over 17 years now. My son, Sam will be 22 soon and I know I've been going almost as long.
You come across all sorts of people from many walks of life in the industry. Some are lovely and so accomodating and then some not so and that's when it hurts.
I guess from brides to be or people who are organising such big events, it's kind of understandable when they are short, stressed and need a little venting every now and then (and I am forever here to lend a shoulder or an ear), but from those who are actually in the industry, it's a little harder to understand.
I've been described by Kelly of Boho Blog as "an incredibly warm and unassuming lady." Kind of how I like to see myself really so thanks for that, Kelly. I have a lovely follower of folk via my own blog here or my Dresses at No 9 Face Book page.
Kat Williams aka The Rock and Roll bride says: "The industry can sometimes get a little bitchy. There is a huge drive for most bloggers (myself included!) to get the most unique, exciting and exclusive content and sometimes it can all get a little...'schoolyard' shall we say. Over the past 3 + years however I've come to realise that there will always be new weddings and content to blog so if you miss out on something to just let. it. go!"
Of course, I'm not a blogger, I'm a dressmaker, but have often had designers at wedding fairs or exhibitions simply turn their back on me the moment you say "I'm a dressmaker" for fear we may steal their designs. It is sad to believe they think so little of me. I admire the craft, I adore the fabrics, I love looking at pretty things. I'm not out to steal their ideas.
However, in saying that, both Leanne and I had a lovely chat with two lovely ladies, Wendy Perkin and Catherine Lombard of Sarah Janks at the British Bridal Exhibition Harrogate.
Sarah is a new Sydney based designer and her designs are exquisite. However, both ladies were warm and welcoming when we disclosed our profession. They told us to look up a wonderful designer called Edith Head, who dressed many of the Hollywood starlets of their day. Homework for both Leanne and I. We have also been fortunate enough to have such wonderful and supportive network of suppliers surrounding us such as HF Couture and Leafy Couture and Roma Velace all who gave their talents for free at our vintage style wedding gown photo shoot.
Having an e mail conversation with Kat Williams today (because I wanted to ask if I could quote her) she said. "You aren't a success until you have haters. But those that matter love you."
I've always known never to burn bridges in business. You'll never know when you need to walk back over one, but there are some out there who are on a different agenda. I don't burn bridges as I said, but I am cautious of who I do business with.
Thank you to those who love me. You are the ones who really matter. And thank you, Kat for your sage advice. You really do Rock and Roll!